Question 3: Think about a major milestone that happened with your family this past year. How has this affected you?
Oh gosh. This is a tough one. There really hasn’t been a milestone. Nothing has happened in the last four years. They’ve been… stagnant. Stuck in a holding pattern, in limbo. Not wanting to be where they are, but also afraid to move forward. My parents haven’t been “together” since July 2013, but they still live together in the same house. They haven’t made any true moves to change that. Sure, they talk about it — but it’s all talk. Nothing has happened. I’m not sure it ever will.
As for how it has affected me, well honestly — I am tired of the drama of it all. I am tired of hearing about how my dad irritates my mom, the lies they tell my sister, how they think she doesn’t know any better even though she is nearly 11. The fact that they say they want X Y and Z but never actually do it. That they’ve said they were selling the house for three years now and it still hasn’t happened. I’m just tired of it. I don’t want to hear about it until they actually make moves. Until then, it’s all just noise to me, and not only do I not believe them, I no longer care. It has never been my concern, anyway. No amount of worrying or guidance or concern has made a difference so far. So at this point, I’m just done. They’re adults. Yes, they have my sister, but she’s just that — my sister. Not my child. I cannot be her parent. I can only be her sister. So the best thing I can do is be there for her, and ignore the rest.